I miss this space but life is so busy right now. How are you peeps?
As usual I need to ramble. I just hate talking about this but I need to let it out...maybe once and for all...maybe.hehe
I was reading a famous blogger's post including the comments section. This blogger talked about her breastfeeding journey from Baby 1 till no 2. She was comparing both experiences where with no 1 it was breezy but no 2 she stopped early due to personal problems (which she mentioned in the post).
There's one visitor who left a comment talking about the benefits of mommy's milk et cetera et cetera which I believe the blogger already knew coz she did well with Baby 1. I think this visitor is rude to comment like that the fact that it was clearly mentioned the blogger had stopped the process months ago. What's your point actually?
Whatever parenting style you choose has nothing to do with other parents. Why do you have to snoop around everyone's life and shove all your parenting philosophy down their throat? These kinds of parents used to make my life so miserable at one point I hate myself for not able to achieve the standard of this holy parenting.
I wasn't able to breastfeed my baby which I admit due to my lack of experience as a young mother who was struggling with c-sec pain and a husband across the sea with a new baby who didn't know how to latch. I was so confused and tired. Thank God my depression level was Under control or post partum depression could be the end.
I struggled for a year pumping milk every two to three hours, cried almost everyday, I was in paiin and I was angry all the time. Ask my husband he knows.hahahahaahah one day I stopped. I unfollow many parents liddis on Facebook, blogs and left most motherhood groups. I keep a few and only share with the people around me whom I know won't judge. These people have different parenting style than me but never once I felt less worthy of being a parent.
Wait...this isn't the point. Apology.hahah my point is... Be respectful can you? Cheer each other because we are mothers. We want the best for our kids. I want the best for my kids.
Vaccine vs sunnah food, stroller vs baby wearing, breastmilk vs formula, walker vs crawling, gadget vs physical toys, English language vs mother tongue, and many other aspects of parenting style,
For the love of God, humanity and sane parents, stop with all the bashing. And pleaseeeee don't objectively put the reason on a single thing. Eh paham ke tak ni? Examples:
- My 2year old can spell 'supercalifragialisticexpialidoscious' coz I exclusively breastfeed him
- shukurrrrrrrrrr anak aku seploh bulan xpenah sakit sebab bagi makanan sunnah je xde vaccine ponn
- eiii anak ko kena rotavirus ke mesti tak vaccine ni'
Examples la based on my own experience having to face these kind of 'outstanding' parents.
Anak kita kecik lagi, panjang lagi perjalanan jadi jangan riak.Takut ko kecikkan hati orang tuhan bayar cash anak kita yang kena.
Paham tak aku membebel ni?
You can read the article, here
Reading the article definitely brought back the memories when I had mine. Starting from the moment Dr. Ishaireen told me that I would need the surgery till I got home from the hospital. And also, my eyes somehow swell with tears because I feel so appreciated with the words used.
Maybe because, I did hear some moms who could use their own body to pop their baby (vaginal birth) said moms who didn't (csection ) weren't real moms coz we didn't feel the pain bla bla bla bla. I was deeply offended at that time. Hahaha hormonal I guess.
Taken from the article:
Being prepped for a c-section is not a walk through the park. Many times, a mother’s partner is not allowed in the OR until after the epidural has been administered and everyone has “taken their place.” This means that while doctors and nurses move about, readying the operating room for delivery (maybe talking about their lunch or what movie they saw over the weekend) a strong pregnant mama sits on a cold operating table considering what lies before her - often scared and often feeling very alone.
This part made me sniffed a lil bit because I spent the final 14hours before the procedure, alone. Hubby was still in Bintulu at that time. Didn't get to eat Mac n Cheese I planned to eat after the appointment. And saw my hubby for barely 5mins after 2weeks not seeing him before I was pushed to the OP theatre. Ok first time having a baby, those matter!! Hahaha
20months after the procedure, I still can't do sit-up. I still can't get up from lying down without having to turn to the side first. I still can't do squat with any heavy weight. The area will strain and eventually cause me pain. Other than that, I can longer sneeze loudly.hahahahaha well, good for a change right?
Healing process differs. That's all I'm saying.hehe
One quote I found from Internet that was a spot on:
Think about a woman who is being told she is not permitted to use her own body to give birth. Not because she can't, she is not allowed"
A C-Sec definitely wasn't my birth plan. But the condition didn't permit to have a normal delivery. A friend asked why didn't I try to be induced first. Well, it's my instinct that drove me. Minmin was big, womb fluid was depleting and he hadn't engaged. So I decided on my own after the doc professional advice to go for csection.
So, here to all mothers who were brave and strong to endure the procedure going under the knives and be cut open to bring a new life to the world!
- irregular period. Started coming after Minmin was 8months old (delay could be due to BF). BUTTTTTTTTTTTT the length of the cycle drove me crazy. Each cycle lasted for a couple of months. Every timeeeee! Not heavy flow, more like spotting but still... rimas mak ok!
- Acne on the face. erghhhh...
- Weight gain. Erm... actually not sure whether this is the side effect but i need something to blame.hahaha I started eating healthy and going to gym but no changes. except lost 1kg. so really guys, i need to blame this implanon.
- Not pregnant. hahahahahaha
So, due to the first side effect, I decided to remove this susuk last week. I really cannot tahan with the long menses period. So I took it out at a private clinic. If you are from Melaka and intend to remove yours, can go to KLINIK MAIZA, Cheng. Charged only RM40. Less than 5 minutes all's done! But of course, need to make appointment first ok.
It's the 18th day since we entered 2015. Gotta say I feel better each day. I feel fresh. I feel optimist. I havent felt stress or depress or unhappy. Or negative. Unlike my 2014
This by far the longest time I feel relax since forever.haha Alhamdulillah for this blessing.
I can just pray for this good feeling to continue. Be positive everyone!!